Everyday Life for Four Seasons

No photo today. I'm at the point in my picture-taking experiment where I need to get focused on what I want to learn. I'm spending a little time reading photography tutorials and not a lot of time taking photos today.

Today is my birthday. It hasn't been a terrible day, but it's been less than ideal, certainly worse than a normal day. 'A' was really upset about her visit to the doctor today for her 3 year check-up, and she continued to let me know about it throughout the day. I'm 35 now. My life is pretty much what I thought it would be at this point.

Update on the preschool saga: I went in to observe last week and found that the class was pretty quiet for the first hour. The second hour wasn't all that bad, and when the communication did break down between the children and the teacher, it was pretty clear to me that it was because the teacher has set up some unrealistic expectations for the class. Some of the children are able to follow the instructions and don't need to be reminded about the rules more than once or twice, but some cannot, and it seemed to be more a matter of their age (2 and 3 year olds) combined with the fact that they really aren't held accountable for their behavior, than anything else.

Since I enjoy watching group dynamics unfold, it was entertaining for me to see how the snack routine played out. The teacher has class rules that she would like the children to follow, including a rule about throwing away their garbage after they are done with their snack. Some of the children get up after snack and don't throw their garbage away - they go straight to playing, running around, or whatever it is that they feel like doing. The teacher then repeats the rule about throwing away their trash, but aside from that gentle reminder, no one holds them accountable for actually throwing it away. No one leads them back to their seat and puts the trash in their hands and leads them over to the trash can. So, when they ignore the teacher and continue to spin around in circles, the teacher gets frustrated and then throws the trash away herself. It seems to me that part of the issue is with the teacher herself.

I am very happy with the situation overall - I would much rather have 'A' go to preschool and play and coexist with students who receive gentle reminders than have her attend a school where the students are disciplined or criticized for not being able to follow an unrealistic set of rules. That was my big fear.

Hopefully a photo of the day will appear tomorrow!

OK, we didn't actually go to Paris or hang out with the First Couple. We did, however, go to the Mystic Aquarium and have our photo taken in front of the blue screen. Their photographer takes it and then they put our bodies on this stock photo of the front of the aquarium and they try to sell it to us for $20.50. Instead of purchasing their photo, I asked the photographer to take a picture with my camera, and when we got back to my dad's house we had fun switching out the background.


We also had fun seeing some Beluga Whales.


'A' adopted my dad as her special person for the weekend. Grandpa Roy had to do everything with her and for her. It was really sweet. Probably really exhausting for my dad, but really sweet.

That's us, with my dad (Grandpa Roy) and Marilyn (Mimi). We're having a good time with them. If only it would stop raining.

Those are my new glasses! I had picked out a pair of DKNY tortoiseshell glasses at Lenscrafters. Sharon's mom took one look at me and told me that I couldn't wear them anymore because they didn't look good. So off we went to Lenscrafters to exchange them for a better pair. Thank goodness I was within my 30-day guarantee timeframe! Remind me to never be on What Not To Wear, it is just too painful to have someone tell you the truth about yourself.

I woke up last night and realized that 'A' needs short hair and bangs. I've been resisting for a while. Every time I put hair clips or elastics in her hair, it breaks. If I don't put anything in it, it is so fine that it sticks to her head and gets in her eyes. So, I cut it all off.


Remember when 'A' lined up her shoes by the door? Today she was playing with her new doll and her new dollhouse and she asked me to help her get the doll ready to go out. I looked and looked for the shoes but couldn't find them... until 'A' pointed out that they were lined up by the front door. How sweet!


She likes to put the end table on the kitchen chair because she says it looks like a booster seat.

Here is the pillow I made last night at my sewing class. I didn't pick the fabric combo - the teacher did. I haven't decided if it will live at my house. It might look better at Jennifer's house (my sister). Her decorating style is a little more floral and ornate than mine.

Tomorrow I am going to 'A's preschool class to observe. I'm going in part because her 3 year check-up is next week and I want to see her interact with her teachers and the other children so I can talk to her doctor about it. I'm also going because all of the parents received an interesting letter from the teachers. The teachers outlined some of the new things they are doing in class, and some of those things include reviewing specific behavioral rules that need to be followed in the classroom.

Anyone who has met me knows that I am a big fan of behavioral rules. I love that there are classroom rules and that the parents are expected to support those rules by reviewing them at home. What I am concerned about are the mixed messages the teachers are giving. When I pick 'A' up at preschool and ask how she is doing, her teachers say she's doing great, and that I don't need to improve on anything in particular. Then I get a letter telling me that all of the children need to be reminded of several rules because they are not able to follow them well. If my child needs to be reminded to listen to the teacher and follow the rules in school, I wish they would tell me that instead of saying she's doing fine. Likewise, if she is following the rules, I don't like being confused by receiving a letter like this.

One of my main objectives as a mother of girls is to guard and nurture their self-esteem. Nothing is more important than that. I don't care where my girls fall on the academic food chain as they get older or where they find themselves on the social ladder. As long as they have high self-esteem, they will be okay, they will make it to adulthood with a good perspective on life, taking healthy memories and messages with them, and they will have the grounding to be productive members of society.

One of the best ways to erode self-esteem in small children is to send them mixed messages. And if those mixed messages come from two of the most important authority figures in their young life, their mother and their teacher, even better. How does 'A' feel when I bring her home from preschool and tell her that her teacher just told me she thinks she's doing a good job, and then she shows up for school and is told by her teacher that she needs to work on a few issues?

I suspect that they sent the letter home to show that they are being clear about classroom expectations by sending the message to every parent, when perhaps it applies to only a few. That kind of approach can work well in situations where the people in the group have a peer-pressure relationship and they can push each other to follow the rules if it means that the whole group wins. It can also work well if it's employed at the beginning of the school year, before they have given parents any other feedback about each child's behavior, as a way to establish rules and boundaries and make their expectations clear. But neither of those is the case.

Something wasn't right about the letter they sent home. I'm going in to observe, and I want to get on the same page as the teacher. Otherwise, we undermine each other's authority and that's the last thing 'A' needs. My main goal is to make sure the messages are coming across to the children clearly and fairly.

I love her.

Today I am saying goodbye to my two year old and Happy Birthday to my three year old.

Tomorrow I will tell you about my new glasses and my new pillow!

We ate dinner outside tonight. I can't tell you how wonderful it feels to get out the tray, the outside dishes and the grill tools. We made a north African mahi mahi recipe and served it with grilled asparagus and crusty rolls. Yum.

it is nice enough to eat popsicles outside today. also nice enough to drop them!


Sometimes I am the paparazzi...


Sometimes she is the one behind the camera.


"Don't drop it," I remind her. After each shot, she checks the screen at the back of the camera to see how it came out. I'm not certain she knows what she's looking for.

here we go folks, we officially kicked off our "April Birthday Extravaganza" on Saturday. 'A's birthday party on Saturday, followed by her family celebration this week, followed by a special birthday snack baked by yours truly on Friday morning at preschool, followed by... no, we're not done yet... my birthday next week, then finally Jeff's birthday 6 days after mine. Whew! After that, we are done for a while... no celebrations for at least another few weeks, until of course our anniversary rolls around in mid-May and then it starts all over again.

The party yesterday was great. We were so happy to see everyone who came. The weather cooperated quite well and we played outside for a bit, then worked on a painted handprint craft, and played some more before settling down for cupcakes. We had a great time. 'A' had been looking forward to it all week, and she really enjoyed it.


Today Jeff, 'A' and I got outside to do some yard clean up while 'H' napped. It felt good to be outside, and we didn't even mind that there is still snow on the ground and some of the leaves are still frozen in place. I discovered a very neat thing about our Viburnums -- did you know that if you accidentally bury a low branch, it will grow roots, and you can cut the branch off the shrub and replant it somewhere else in your yard? I just learned that today. I suppose you could bury the low branch on purpose, too.


After 'H' awoke, we headed to a playground and park for some fun time.


They don't allow snowmobiles at the park, which is a good thing when you consider that it's all grassy there.


We saw Chris coming into the park on our way out.


'H's favorite part? The swings!

Would you just look at that? She's wearing her baby in a sling and carrying her purse!!!

It's Friday! Tomorrow is 'A's third birthday party and we are very excited about it! We're having a small party with some of her friends. All of the books say that you should invite the number of children that equals the child's age plus one. So, that would mean that we would invite three children to her party. Only four total? I couldn't just have three kids over. Just think, four children playing quietly and well together... how boring! You know the saying -- it's not a party until someone cries!

So, we are expecting to have 9 toddlers & preschoolers and a few babies here. 'A' is friends with another girl named 'A' (yes, same name), and the other 'A' has two younger sisters who are just as close in age to my 'A' as the other 'A' is. My 'A' asks about the sisters just as much as she asks about 'A', and so when I sat down to talk to my 'A' about the party, she was thrilled to hear that 'E' and 'M' would be invited too. So, if we only wanted 3 other children here, then our guest list would have stopped after we invited 'A' and her sisters!


I tried to make yummy non-dairy, non-egg vanilla cupcakes and as I expected, my experiment failed. The cupcakes are edible but not delicious. It's really hard to bake without eggs! Eggs are a miracle ingredient in baked goods.


'A' grabbed the camera tonight during dinner and took some photos, including this one of Jeff. He looks pretty good, particularly when you consider the fact that he took 3 flights across the country last night to get home. And, of course, I haven't let him have more than a few seconds of rest since he arrived...

Looks like my orchid is coming back to life!